Orrin, Your comments were extremely helpful! Specifically your comments about connecting with people offstage to win over their hearts. I have heard John Maxwell explain his "Law of Connection" where he said "leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand." In John Maxwell's book, 25 ways to win with people, he talked about a people practice he implements about adding value to people. He says to add value to people you must do 3 things: 1. Value People 2. Know and relate what people value 3. Make yourself more valuable What type of questions do you ask people that allows you to make a connection with them and touch a heart? In other words do you ask questions knowing what they could become or do you frame your questions in another way? I have been thinking about this question alot because I know significance with people depends on it! As a growing leader I know that success is when I add value to myself, but siginificance is when I add value to others. Thanks Orrin! Matt